No Shame - Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships

Sex-positive parenting begins before your child starts talking. In No Shame: Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships, New York City Psychiatrist Dr. Lea Lis offers a guide to parents as they seek to help their children through the maze of sexuality and intimate relationships in the 21st century. In clear, straightforward terms, she lays out the groundwork on which parents can help their kids grow up to enjoy positive sexual experiences, and backs up her arguments with data from the most recent surveys and studies of teen sexual behavior.

Dr. Lis' unique Mindful Kid practice in New York is well recognized as an approach that emphasizes the mental healthcare of the child, exploring underlying issues to truly help children and their families move through and beyond their concerns to a place of healing and connection.

In No Shame, Dr. Lis covers the many issues that may arise as children grow: how to help young children understand personal physical boundaries; the importance of opposite-sex role models in children's lives, what to tell-and not tell-your kids about your own sexual history; and the role of rituals to mark a girl's first period or a boy's passage into manhood. Dr. Lis gives practical pointers on how to help your kids when their relationships run into trouble, how to encourage them to have good relationships with themselves, and how to teach them to flirt and to deal with rejection.

No Shame shows how talking to your kids about sex and encouraging them to keep a dialogue open with you will help them to have positive, joy-filled emotional and sexual relationships as they grow up. This may not always be comfortable, but as Dr. Lis shows throughout this book, talking about sex, love and relationships in a knowledgeable way is essential.

Inhaltsverzeichnis:

An Introduction to Shameless Psychiatry
The what, why, & how of positive parenting
Who is the Shameless Psychiatrist?
Mind hacking
To be right, or to be effective . . .
Parenting styles & strategiesThe Power 9
The need for a primary caregiver
When you "stay together for the child"
How to incorporate the opposite-sex role model
The case for a "father" role model in a girl's healthy development
Don't leave out the pleasure talk!!!
Don't leave out the consent talk!
Not just the opposite-sex role model is important
Relationship 101: how to handle conflict
How to help your angry and irritable teen
Be your own bestie! Having a great relationship with oneself
Create rituals
Creating a gentle man
Great relationships with the other humans of the world

5 Sexual Initiation
Sort out sex and romance by teaching rational love
Flirting training
Get rejected
The evolution and neurobiology of sex-and how it pertains to your k ids . . .
Explain emotional and physiological effects of sex
Under pressure xxx
Hookups! Etiquette! Anal! Address the Awkward

6 Annihilating the Risks
Do you know how to use the tech your child uses?
Take inventory (on social media)
Keep an eye out for cyberbullying
Dispel distorted myths (caused by pornography)
Lead with the legalities (on sexting)
Instill "No friend left behind" (with drugs and partying)

7 Teaching Radical Inclusion for Gender,Sexual, and Family Identities and Expressions
Gender and sexual identity and expression
Great relationships start with great role models
What to do if you suspect your child is outside the box
When your family is outside the box

8 A Parent's Ongoing Sexual Story
How your sexual story affects your child
Parent disclosures to children
Avoid oversharing
Nontraditional families and parent disclosure: one family's story
Blender, banner, & chameleon: family disclosuresto the world
To disclose or not to disclose

9 Parental Conflict Divorce
Moving between households
Dealing with an ex's new partner and parental arrangements
Dating & introducing new partners
Stepparenting tips

10 Boost and Embolden Self-Esteem in Your Child
Feed them well
Help them rest well
Get them moving
Practice radical self-acceptance
Practice meditating early on
Breathe. Relax.